All too often, I run across people that have experienced some kind of past hurt. Many years ago, someone did something hateful or disgusting to him or her and they are still harboring that pain and anger. They have a special place of ill will, reserved in their heart for the perpetrating individual. Their mind is like a video player that is stuck on repeat, where they continually remember every detail of the painstaking offense. Some also go as far as rehearsing in their mind different ways to get even. This is called un-forgiveness.
Un-forgiveness is a state of mind where an individual will not, under any circumstances, stop feeling angry or resentment for a past wrong that he or she has suffered. The offender is not necessarily limited to an individual. It can also be a group or an organization that one feels has misrepresented him or her. The bottom line is that un-forgiveness can be aimed at a person or a thing. Un-forgiveness is like a cancer that slowly eats away at your insides, while having no effect on the adversary. Un-forgiveness is like ingesting poison expecting it to kill the wrongdoer. Un-forgiveness is like going on a hunger strike to punish someone else for a wrong.
Un-forgiveness is borderline blasphemy of the Holy Ghost. As long as one hold on to un-forgiveness, that individual is out of the will of Almighty God; Mt 6:15, “But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” As soon as an individual releases un-forgiveness, he is actually repenting and is only then considered to be a truly born-again individual; Mt 6:14, “For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” If you are harboring un-forgiveness, release it and open the door of a more abundantly life, but holding on to it builds a wall between you and Christ.
